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A snap decision to step away has become a lifestyle shift for Philippa Moore. Though keeping up with friends can be tricky, she has no regrets

Wed 17 May 2023 11.00 EDT

On 10 January 2022 I thought I was going a bit mad.

Or maybe, after everything that had happened over the past two years and with the country in the grip of yet another Covid surge, Id just had enough. If my social media feeds were anything to go by, so had everyone else. Every time I opened Instagram or Twitter I felt caught up in a maelstrom of anger and hopelessness.

After reading one self-righteous rant too many, I made the snap decision to step away from social media. I didnt announce it. I just disappeared. I was curious to see what might happen and, more importantly, whether it would help.

As virtual dust settled on my profiles, I realised this decision had been building for some time. I didnt know whether social media was the problem or whether I was. All I knew was something had to give.

Within a week, my screen time was down a whopping 81%. And it wasnt just time I had regained. I felt as though I had my brain back. I had the ability to focus, to think clearly and deeply. I had more energy. I was sleeping better. I felt more creative and confident. My fear of missing out had vanished.

As the weeks passed, I noticed how much more relaxed I was, despite everything going on around me. It felt rebellious, thrilling even, to have vanished into thin air. My Fitbit reported the lowest resting heart rate Id had in months.

Initially I decided to see if I could make it through a week. Then two. Its now been 16 months and counting.

Every time I consider returning, the case against it is stronger. I dont want to go back to feeling anxious, sad, inadequate or in need of external validation every time I pick up my phone. Of course I havent stopped feeling those things but theres been a drastic reduction. I notice those feelings faster and, because theyre not being fed, they dont linger as they used to.

Stepping away from social media also made me take my work more seriously. Instead of channelling my creativity into captions, it went into my actual writing my PhD thesis, a novel. Without the ability to tab elsewhere, I stayed in my chair when I hit writers blocks and then pushed through them. I wrote more in 2022 than I ever have. I applied for fellowships and entered competitions, and won some. Social media, it seemed, had not been the bolstering place of inspiration I thought.

I also discovered a community of people who had done the same thing and I found great comfort knowing it wasnt just me. Where did I find them? Good old-fashioned blogs.

I began writing online nearly 20 years ago, when the word blog was still unfamiliar to many. I loved blogging and built a strong community without any of the platforms at our disposal now. When blogs became unfashionable, that energy was transferred into social media. So last year I stepped back in time and started blogging again. Some people came looking for me there that was heartening.

Trying to keep up with friends has been a bit trickier. Some friendships have flourished during my social media absence. Im grateful that most happily transferred over to text or email. Ive even become old-fashioned penpals with several interstate friends. But there are a few whom I considered very good friends whose communication has dropped off, too. This has been the only real downside of the whole experiment. Ive tried not to take it too personally it was my choice to step away. But I wasnt stepping away from those friendships, nor asking them to do the same.

I lamented over a friends silence to my husband. Have I upset them? I asked, a little panicked. He shook his head. They still like and respond to everything I put on Instagram. I dont think theyd do that if they were upset. Its just, to some people, if youre not on socials, you dont exist. Weirdly, that made me feel a little better.

Social media exploits a primal human need connection. And it is harder to find when you dont want to hang out where everyone else is. But now when I open my phone I rarely come away feeling lost. Rather than letting an algorithm dictate my life, Im living it on my own terms.

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In the year since I quit social media, my screen time has fallen, my mood is up even my resting heart rate is lower - The Guardian